A Key to Happiness.

Are you afraid of your life or future? If so, just chill out and be free from your anxiety which makes you suffer. Only reading this article doesn’t give you happiness but you have to practice only two things in your life nothing more. I grantee, you will be happy forever. Well I am not going to explain or convince you through some vast philosophy or theory to have a good life as well as good future. Although my philosophy is not something untold in this universe, I will explain through my own experience. Beside I am not alien to give you knowledge out of this universe, I am just a simple student so, I request you to kick your expectation. Because which will arise your anger; I don’t want to inflame your smiley mood into enrage or angered. Never expect much from someone else. It doesn’t matter, whether he or she is your dear or family, whatever they are; just don’t expect much. Well, let me tell you one incident

I had a friend from Sikkim and honestly I am fond of him. We had so many up and down situation but we always settled the dust quickly. So, couples of years back, I went to Sikkim expecting big thing from him. After reaching Sikkim, nothing happened as I expected from him, which hurt me a lot and his face became source of misery and anger. Each day passed with burden, a burden cause by expectation, I start building a wall and honestly I treated him badly and for that I felt he deserved (at that time) but now I regretted my silly action. This is because of my expectation, which ruin my whole trip to magnificent Sikkim and honestly I really don’t remember where I visited at all because I was doomed by anger and so forth. 

Peace and happiness is related to the quality of your mind; so we need to learn how to keep the mind in one’s control. For controlling the mind, first we should know its discordant factors and the causes that always make the mind disturbed which ultimately give rise to disturb and suffering. 

In everyday life, we desire to have something it doesn’t matter whether it is big or small… with having desire, we take action to achieve by any means or cost. We suffer physically, mentally and emotionally when in the process.

Last year I was craving for iphone, to fulfill my desire, I lied with intension to deceive, deceit, artifice, cheat, play fraud with my relatives. Just for that iphone, I break their trust. Later they knew about my secret story and I was scolded badly. Since that day, they keep telling me about iphone that I was tire of hearing. I get 30% happiness from iphone but remaining 70% are anxious, greed, desire, lust, conflict, trouble and other source of sorrow or suffering. I am not arguing not to buy iphone or other gadget but all I mean is….be content with what you have. Be satisfied, pleased and content with what you got. 

Beside contemplate yourself why you need it… Well as far as my experience, it’s just a fashion. The more expensive gadget I had, the more problem I had. Just to make a small part, it cost big money and you have to figure out the expense. Right now I am using the cheapest cell phone (mobile), neither I have tension of losing it nor damage because I can easily replace it beside it does make a call as same as other does. 

Desire and expectation can apply in a positive sense, it is very useful and gives us courage and strength to success but in negativity it’s just a source of unhappiness. Expectation and desire goes hand in hand like the two side of coin. You might fail after several attempted but don’t lose your heart, keep continue your practice. As a saying “practice makes man perfect” You can control it sooner or later. It’s like training your dog, at first your dog won’t understand your language but with time it will. After that you can have fun, happiness with your dog.

Every sentient being equally desire happiness whether temporally or permanently, wishes not to experience even a slightest suffering. Despite that all run after disharmony and troubles out of ignorance.  Liberation (moksa or nirvana) is the final destination for Buddhism but as far as my concerned, liberation is far far away realm for us to be free from this ocean of suffering. So, just handle your negativity expectation and desire. It’s like doorway to the happiness in your entire life.

Well, in my next article…I am going to write about WHEEL OF LIFE or SRID PA KHOR LO (in Tibetan). It describe the twelve links as everything in this world is interdependent to each other, from great king of country to the poorest citizen has to depend to each other. How we suffer and why we keep suffering in this beautiful world…the answer will in my next article. Have a good day……..

Ladhak is truly incredible

Ladhak is also known as ‘’little Tibet’’ as it lies across the Himalayan and situation on the Tibetan plateau plus the clear Tibetan influence in the Ladakhi’s customs, religion and so on.  Ladhak is also known as ‘’the last Shangri La’’ or ‘’the moonland’’. Ladhak was given moonland because of its similarity with moon, a barren, grey-brown landscape, utterly devoid of vegetation but these days without any problem you can find green everywhere. Plantation has been done every space they could fine, that’s why you have put Ladhak in genius world record by planting in such altitude.

Chamday Monastery

“Until the 10^th century Ladhak was regarded as a province of Tibet, where Buddhism was the dominant religion. With the collapse of the Tibetan empire the border regions became independent kingdoms under local rulers. At the time Ladhak was conquered by Palgyi-Gon, who came from the Tibetan royal family” mention by Margret and Rolf Schettler.

Leh

Geographically Ladhak is similar to  Mustang (Nepal), crystal sky, sandy hills, hot sun, cold wind and so on….But what makes me so especial about Ladhak is…not that damn advance technology but the rich pilgrimage site and magnificent historical palaces. The palaces were built on the higher ground and the monasteries were built in the remote as it has to be. Monasteries or gompa, the exact meaning of gompa is wilderness area or away from town or village.  

When I reached Leh (the capital of ladhak) I feel nothing especial….I thought I am at city….that’s all …nothing more, even thou geographically and environmentally I am standing at the last Shangri La…It’s not like, Ladhak is dirty and stinky. It’s unfair to judge according to my taste. I was holding too big expectation that’s why I feel nothing special about Leh.  Leh has transform like other modern city. 

When I visited the villages like Hemis, Stok…I feel completely different and my heart keeping arguing me “why don’t you choose to spend time here rather than at damn Leh” the more, I spend the more I desire to hold it. The sound of flowing mountain water, the birds singing and the peace environment have provide me so much relax and joyous. I saw the field blossoming with yellow flower and the dark green leaves dance happily with the cool mountain breeze and the melody of bird singing.

In Serthi 

Ladhak is such a magical place that, the more you visit the more you desire…the pleasure, joyous, excitement, eagerness never fade away even you visit the same place twice or thrice….there is always something marvelous about the local people and their generously and kindness. The structure and the lifestyle of local people teach us certain knowledge….like being satisfied with what one have or had, they give happiness as first priority rather than damn shit money, honesty, meaning of simple life and so on. I don’t think, whether my statement makes sense or not but I am sure, it makes sense to those who have had visited incredible Ladhak.

If you have problem with altitude then you better choose to stay rather than going there for trouble….Leh stands at an altitude of 11,500 ft above sea level and you might get trouble with latitude sickness. I heard lot of old and young people getting problem with the breathing.

June to September is the best duration to trek or visit as in early June, snow still sparking like a diamond and chill wind make you shiver. By start of july, you can manage with summer clothes as well…but most importantly you need sun cream, hat and sunglass. The higher you are the brighter the sun is.

Have a good day…and if you need more information about Ladhak..i be happy to inform you….